Story by Raksha Bhattacharjee
According to research, orgasms are not as important in sexual relationships as emotional connection, intimacy, and mutual admiration.We may underestimate the importance of intimate moments like extended embraces, slow kisses, whispered jokes, or just being near someone we love. According to a recent study, people value intimacy for many other reasons outside the orgasm, which many people believe to be the highlight of sex.
The Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy
Nearly 3,000 adults in the US were polled for the study, which was published in the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy, to determine what they genuinely enjoy most about having sex with their spouse. Orgasms were surprisingly the only aspect mentioned by 231 respondents, suggesting that contemporary partnerships may be changing the definition of “good Sex.”Making their spouse feel good, whether through oral sex, witnessing their partner’s enjoyment, or attending to their sexual needs, was noted by just 241 individuals, which is another indication that sex is more than just performance.
300 American adults said that…
Furthermore, more than 300 American adults said that they like emotional connections, especially when they involve love and caring, the most about having sex. These people prioritize feeling loved, wanted, and appreciated during romantic interactions over orgasms and meeting bodily requirements. This group of participants views sex as a means of strengthening an already intense emotional tie between two lovers, rather than just a physical act. Almost 400 adults in the United States stated that they value sex most because it allows them to feel noticed, connected, emotionally safe, and like themselves.
How emotional closeness increases connection and self-worth
Although having sex alone has its benefits, having sex with a partner can provide more emotional benefits, such as an increase in self-esteem, according to Nicole Cirino, M.D., associate professor of psychiatry at OHSU’s Center for Women’s Health. “Masturbating during sex won’t trigger the release of as much oxytocin or other mood-enhancing hormones as having sex as part of a loving relationship,” Dr. Cirino says.
Skin-to-skin contact
As the research progresses, it becomes clear that a large number of participants also like the closeness that sex provides with their spouse. IN addition to the special bonding experience that sex provides, couples can connect more deeply by snuggling, kissing, trying out various positions, making eye contact, and skin-to-skin contact. Additionally, participants in the study expressed gratitude for the opportunity to be totally present with their spouse during sex, free from outside distractions.
